Welcome to the site! The XV truly is a great car and the khaki is just as a great color. It sounds like you fit right into Subaru's niche market being the outdoorsy, adventurous type.
As for your mod list:
Originally Posted by HoosierCrossTrekker
-decently priced cargo basket to go atop the cross bars
-Plasti Dip (black or gunmetal grey?) the front and rear bumpers, as well as the side moldings
-install a bull bar with skid plate (black powder coat or black plasti dip?)
*extra lights on bull bar
1. Check out the Curt line, http://www.curtmfg.com/part/18117.
I have one and love it. Paid about $160 for it through eBay but I believe someone on this site found it for $100 new. May take some link digging to find.
2. A lot of people on this site have done Plasti Dipping of badges, grilles, wheels, bumpers, side moldings, etc. Just search around and I am sure you will find the info you need.
3. As far as I know, there aren't any real bullbars available for the Crosstrek yet, at least in the States. I could be wrong, though. For the skid plate, Caruso motor sports makes one, http://clubcrosstrek.com/index.php/topic,410.0.html,
as well as a couple other companies I believe.
4. Not sure if a lift kit exists yet, either. I do believe someone makes spacers that will give you about 1", though. Again, I may be wrong!
Hopefully that helps you some at least until someone more knowledgable chimes in. Thanks for joining!